this feels like summer...

I'm in a group on the Facebook and the question was posed, would you rather give up your phone (meaning cell phone I assumed) or sex for a year.  Without much thought or hesitation I said MY PHONE!!  Now this doesn't mean I am sex crazed, but I know for sure I can stand to be a little less connected.  I remember back when all you had was a house phone and you had to either be home to get (or make) a call or you just missed it.  There was no voice mail, no answering machine, no caller id NONE of that.  Now it's like every ding the phone makes I jump, WE all jump because that is the nature of how things are now.  You have the regular phone on your phone where you can make calls, get voicemail and receive texts, but then in addition you can get emails from ALL of your email accounts, Facebook, twitter, snapchat, instagram, google hangout, tumblr, you can shop on Amazon, QVC, HSN, Wayfair, you can get all the music you need from Spotify, Pandora, SoundCloud, you can also look at all of your bank statements and then if you are bored you can play all the games you want to play because surely you don't have enough occupying your time with all of the above ... AND it's just too much!! When you are by yourself you're on your phone. When you are with friends STILL on your phone because you want to know what other people are saying and doing and/or showing them what you are doing.  No one is living in the moment and enjoying right now because they are too busy trying to capture it to look at in a future that will never come.  I have several friends (so no one person will get offended LOL) that can not bear to step away for any long period of time. So yeah I'll take sex! I've never had anyone check a message in the throws of passion.  I can wait to get home to use the house phone and get on my computer.  I clicked on a video of SZA at AfroPunk New York on YouTube and all you saw were a sea of phones in the air. I didn't even end up watching the video but someone in the comments said PUT THE PHONES DOWN!! Which I hopped on a and had a few comments myself.  There are still a few artists who insist that you put down your phone.  I was there when Lalah Hathaway refused to keep going until someone put their phone down.  It's just such a distraction and I think we need a lil apocalypse so we can get back to enjoying each other.  There was a TV show a few years back called Revolution, electricity stopped and people had to move on and figure out the best way to live their lives without it.  The show was rather interesting I mean it got a little ridiculous as most sci-fi show tend to get after a while but I really loved the premise.  I just goggled it, it only had 2 seasons, but they were long ass seasons. Anyway I digress as I tend to do... Give me all the secks!!!

As summer is surely coming to a close I have almost completed (well like 95%) one of my summer project which was to paint all the metal outside of my house.  I got the front and back railing, the front lamp post (which I still don't think has electricity to it and MAYBE it is a flag pole after all??), and the back swing set which i will use to hang pretty stuff I get from QVC from.  I still need to do the flower bed or maybe it was a bird bath, and the cellar door.  I might go back to Ace and get a fun color because I did all of the above in flat black, which I coulda sworn I got glossy black, but it is way to late for me to go back now.  It looks good!!  And it makes me feel proud to be a home owner. My creepy neighbor who's work hours I do not want to learn has seen me in the front and in the back painting.  He comes over and chats, asks about my mom and it's all good.  The one time though he comes over and says 'Why didn't you have me paint all of this?' And I look at him like WHET?!?!  Umm... Cause I can paint!  most of the stuff around here I can do.  The he says 'Well you know I do houses and stuff so you should get me to help you'. UHHH NO!!!  This is the one who's wife JUST started speaking to me.  I mean most of my neighbors it's just a hi/bye kinda thing.  Every once in a while they come over and chat for a minute, but nothing heavy duty. When he 1st moved in he wanted to mow my lawn, he saw I was struggling and I appreciated the offer but NO!  At that point I wasn't sure if the woman was the girlfriend or wife or WHAT, so yeah, NO... NOW he wants my lawn guy to mow his lawn and my lawn dude was like NO!  I don't think he cares for him.  My lawn dude is retired and does what he wants.  So back to the convo we were having after he's telling me how he can do all this stuff that I didn't ask him to do.  So then he says' Oh you one of those independent women?' And I stop what I'm doing and say WELL YES I AM!! Now here's thing, I am independent out of necessity. I don't have a man or husband and sure, I could pay someone to do whatever needs to get done, but I don't have any extra money for that, and I actually enjoy doing the things I can do around MY house.  It was said as an insult like HOW DARE YOU BE INDEPENDENT!!!  I have a plan for the house this year and it was painting the metal, and the concrete and washing the front porch (with the cleaner I got on the HSN LOL). What it didn't include was answering to some man that pays not one single bill in this house and who is way to uncute to offer anything else to me.  So yeah, I'm independent!!  I know what I need to do and when I need to do it.  I've been stock piling supplies since the beginning of summer so nope don't ask about the shed because that wasn't in the plan for this year and no I don't want your extra random paint you have from whatever job you were on.  I'm good!  I try to be nice but I really want to say just leave me alone!! So I still have a few more things to do and hopefully they will get done before it gets too cold.

As a bartender I work at a club in Baltimore and so many events have soooo many white men!  It just bothers me so much.  Like you guys couldn't have 1 diversity hire?  This event was a real estate company and the one young lady who was white was an intern, so she was getting drinks for the men.  There was a woman who was 'other', she wasn't black and I couldn't get a good enough look at her to figure out what she was, but I think she was the admin.  there was this other event where the man was quite proud of his company only doing business by word of mouth.  And that is the big problem.  You deal with people you know who usually look like you so you don't even think to include folks who don't look like you which is why it's so hard for black films to get green lit in and when they do they hold the weight of the entire black community on them because they just HAVE to do well or else nothing else will get green lit!  I just scoured NBC and CBS to see what new shows are on.  So far Marlon is the only full 'black' show but they also just canceled Carmichael on NBC so is that a true win? ABC has the most diverse show thanks to Shonda.  I didn't mean to get into entertainment but you can see it better there.  I worked in an office in downtown Baltimore where the only black folks were admins or custodial and there were like 2 in upper management, but that place didn't even interview me even though they told me to apply so I knew there was some fracken nackle going on there!! 

I got up to go eat and completely lost my train of thought!!