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The serenity prayer is truly one of things I need to repeat to myself more times than I care to admit.  And here it is:

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

The reason why, is I really have to step back sometimes and say SELF, or CHICK (you know whatever fits the mood) that aint your business! OR there is nothing you can’t do about that! Or just leave it alone! So that’s what I need to do.

***Kinda sorta spoiler alert…even though I don’t give that much away and you should still go see it!***

I saw ‘Dear White People’ a satire movie that centers on 4 black college students who attend a fictitious Ivy League university.  Now let me preface my thoughts by saying I am a 40 year old who went to an HBCU.  It was wasn’t so conscious of a decision that I wanted to be around all black folk, but more the size of the schools I visited was more my speed, but now that I think of it I only did a college tour of Black schools so maybe that was more my mom’s idea?!? Anyway  when I was doing research back in 1989-ish  (LOL) some of the majority schools were just too big.  Even Pitt, the college my mother liked to threaten me with, was just too damn big. I considered Virginia Tech but the freshman class was like 15 thousand people.  I honestly was not exposed to some of the smaller schools and staying in Pennsylvania was out of the question.  All that is to say I could not really relate to this movie BUT it was good!  The main character was a mixed race girl who had a radio show called Dear White People.  The anecdotes were funny like DWP please don’t touch my hair! I have not had this experience.  It’s usually other black people that want to touch my hair.  Or DWP don’t dance!  This one was hilarious because I sat behind 4 white women and the one woman said AWW MAN!!!  I almost fell out my seat it was so funny LOL This character was the ‘militant one’ who dated a white guy but then then black guy was in love with her and then her white dad was sick so she just had a lot of race issues that she had to get a hold of.  The next character played by the little guy in ‘Everybody Hates Chris’ who I didn’t even realize he was gay until the movie was almost over.  He didn’t really fit into any one group so he was kind of a loner.  The next character was the son of the dean of the school (the dean played by Allstate’s Dennis Haysbert) and had issues of wanting to do what was expected of him instead of what he really wanted to do.  SO he dated the president’s daughter but didn’t really want to and then ended up sleeping with the last character who had some really crazy issue.  She also had a radio show/vlog and hated the DWP segments.  Her goal was to get with a white guy.  Her form of self-loathing I haven’t seen in a quite some time.  I’m not saying everyone who has a relaxer or get weaves or has color contacts has issues because that’s not the case but she was trying to get as far away from here roots (literally and figuratively) as she could.  Basically my synopsis is that these are 4 different young black people who are just confused but navigating their way through college and eventually life in a landscape that thinks a certain way about all black people and lumps them into one big monolith, but that is so not the case.  It is a worthwhile movie to see.   I am a youtube kinda chick so I’ve been hearing buzz about this movie for quite a while.  So yeah, that’s my review

The Aaliyah Movie was BAD!  I mean there was not nothing in no way good about it.  But Ima need for all of you people to ease up on my best friend in my head Wendy Williams.  You guys are flooding the internet with such negativity and it is just not necessary.  You took your time to watch it so that was YOUR FAULT!  It was on Lifetime, what the heck did you expect?  Name any good movie that has been on that network?  Don’t get me wrong, you can get stuck on a movie and/or movie marathon on that station and wonder what the heck happened to your day.  And then there are themes like the women who beat their husbands or women who are single mothers who got abducted to the Middle East for prostitution (LOL); it gets that ridiculous.  SO yeah the memes have been hilarious.  And that’s it.

Onto Bill Cosby… **LOUD SIGH** I didn’t realize until today that this came up because of another comedian who did a bit about Bill Cosby.  I don’t think he was trying to gain fame he just did his bit, someone taped it, put it on the internet, and it went viral.  I mean we are in internet age! But this clearly isn’t new information.  I remember back in the day that Bill Cosby had a child outside of marriage (just like Jesse Jackson) and then it just kinda went away.  Like no one said any more about it.  And I guess that is the same thing.  Women made allegations and then it just went away.  I think he absolutely did what they said he did.  The last time I heard it was 17 women who came forward.  That’s a lot of women to be lying on a man, so I do think there is truth.  And the comparison I made was we still hold (or held) the Nazis responsible for their war crimes decades after they came to the USA and started families and tried to live normal lives.  They still killed and tortured people, but now that they are someone’s grandfather they are exempt?  And not to compare Bill Cosby to the Nazis but it does fit. Just like we all forgot R. Kelly liked little girls until we saw The Aaliyah Movie.  I didn’t forget and I never did like R. Kelly. NEVER!!  The only song he sang that I like was ‘I believe I can fly’ and that had more to do with my nephews and Space Jam.  I do however like Cliff Huxtable and Bill Cosby played him so in some regard I will always like Bill Cosby.  And Fat Albert?!?!  That was my childhood right there.  He is 77 and someone’s grandfather so while he is not exempt… uhhhh I don’t know, I just don’t…

It was someone’s bright idea to give me 2 trash cans, 1 for recycling and 1 for regular trash.  BUT WHY is the one for trash smaller?  I have lots of trash and just a little recycling on a daily bases.  Right now it is full to the brim.  Probably the same person who didn’t provide a closet for me.  Just freaking geniuses!!

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Today is Music Monday! I don’t know if this happens for you, but I can be minding my own business and just hear a song that just takes me where I need to be.  And that happened to me just this morning.  I am on my way to work all late and hungry cause I had to make sure the roommate was good to go and this song comes on the radio.  I instantly know its Tank because his voice has a certain something that sets him apart from others.  It was his title song to his new cd Stronger.  And I was like YES!!  I need to get this cd right now… well not right now cause I’m still driving but I need this cd in my life!  His first single ‘You’re my Star’ has this retro feel to it and I really wasn’t feeling it until I saw the video and being the video vixen I am in my mind it made wanna get up, get in shape and go try out for the next video shoot happening in the good Baltimore a la the old Aunt Viv when she still had it but then decided she didn’t really want it.  So now I am listing to the CD on the youtube and I am happy about my purchase on the amazon and did anyone else know that prime went from 79 to 99 bucks!??!   I know these are run ons but stay with me!  So this cd is H O T N E S S!!  This is his 6the cd and I‘m wondering if I need to revisit 1-5?  I know he wrote some song for Jamie Foxx and I bought his dumb 1^st cd and was greatly disappointed.  Except for Unpredictable because it had Ludacris on it and doesn’t he always make any corny song better?!  HE DOES!! Ok back to Tank… I totally missed him at the Essence the year I went because I was on my grind tryna get to the super lounges. I saw sexy Ty!!! But I missed the other T and G.  I don’t really know what happened with the whole TGT thing.  I wasn’t really here for it but you know 3 sexy mens I should have been, right?  I think r&b is inundated with sameness.  Singers sound the same, songs sound the same.  Producers who work with different artists do the same thing.  I like my independent people for just that reason, they try different things.  So I keep Eric Robeson, Anthony David and the like around for some plain old good music!  I’m going back through some of his old stuff… while I appreciate the shirtlessness, I think I’ll stick with this one.

The roommate is home!  She had a temporary stay at the good assisted living because she fell and fractured her ankle in August.  It was a good break for the both of us.  I am getting myself back into the swing of things, namely buying groceries and cooking.  I have a bad habit of eating out too much probably a good reason my ass, boobs, and belly won’t get any smaller. 

I’ve had a few epiphanies recently.  1.) I need to stop blaming outside things for me being unsettled.  It’s no one else’s fault but my own for not getting my shit together.  2.) Everyone is not in the same season at the same time. What I am going through might not be what you are going through and even if you have some sound advice for me, I might not be in the space to hear it.  It goes both ways.  3.) and this is an extension of 2… we all have different fears and re-naming it to make it sound like it’s not a fear doesn’t make it any less of a fear.  Take these however you need to take it.

Now I am on to Tevin Campbell… what happened to him? The Wikipedia page said he is working on a new CD. I used to sing at the top of my lungs to him driving to and from the good VSU!! There were several tapes (HA TAPES!!!) the red Renault had a tape deck LOL I did a lot of singing and praying between Petersburg and DC  cause once I hit 495 I had to concentrate.